"Death Is a Living Process"

The Mate Moce Guide to Serving the Dying

A Practical Resource for Practitioners of the Way of Adidam Based on the Wisdom-Teaching of The Divine World-Teacher, Ruchira Avatar Adi Da Samraj

Prepared by the Staff of Mate Moce,
the Death and Dying Ministry of the Eleutherian Pan-Communion of Adidam

©2000 The Da Love-Ananda Samrajya Pty Ltd.,
as trustee for The Da Love-Ananda Samrajya.
Only edition: 2000
ISBN 1-57097-085-8
Produced by the Ruchirasala of Adidam
in cooperation with the Dawn Horse Press,
a division of the Eleutherian Pan-Communion of Adidam

CONTENTS

ABOUT THE MATE MOCE MINISTRY

INTRODUCTION

PART ONE: PREPARING FOR THE DEATH TRANSITION

Death Is a Necessary Process
     A Talk by Ruchira Avatar Adi Da Samraj

Basic Recommendations from Avatar Adi Da Regarding Death

Preparations All Practitioners of Adidam Should
Make to Provide Legal Protection

Renunciation in Preparation for Death

Forgive and Be Forgiven

Practical Care for the Terminally Ill

Home Care versus Hospital Care
Financing of Home Care
Deciding When and Whether to Use Health Care Professionals
Physical Care
Pain Management
Persons in a Coma

How to Serve the Dying Person
     A Talk by Ruchira Avatar Adi Da Samraj

Avatar Adi Da's Formal Instructions for Dying Practitioners of Adidam

Preparations in Anticipation of the Death of a Formal Practitioner of Adidam

Preparations in Anticipation of the Death of Someone Who Is Not a Formal Practitioner of Adidam

Serving My Brother-in-Law's Passing
     A Leela by Eileen Mulvihill about Serving Someone Who
     Is Not a Formal Practitioner of Adidam

Practical Actions to Take When a Devotee Has Died

Report the Death of a Devotee
Arrange for the Vigil
Locate the Deceased's Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care
Make Arrangements for the Cremation
Keep the Body Undisturbed
Notifying Local Authorities
Prevent Invasive Procedures
Embalming Versus Refrigeration
Use of a Funeral Home
Death of a Child
The Three-Day Vigil
Cremation

Practical Actions to Take When a Devotee Has Died Unexpectedly

If Death Occurs in a Hospital
If Death Occurs Outside a Hospital
When to Call a Coroner

Practical Actions Relative to the Unanticipated Death of
Someone Who Is Not a Devotee

Serving a Death Transition at a Distance

What Death May Look Like and How to Serve These Changes

Mottling of the Skin or Loss of Color and Sensation from the Hands and Feet of the Dying Person
Upward Turning of the Eyes
Communications of "Out-of-the-Body" Experience
The Gradual Subsiding of Outer Awareness
Fevers and Sweats
Weakening of and/or Difficulty in Breathing
Signs of Major Organ Failure As Physical Death Approaches

Moving Out of the Physical Body

Care of a Devotee's Body after Death

Handling Changes in the Body after Death
Choosing a Vigil Site
Moving the Body
Preparation of the Body
Preparing the Room
Readings

The Three-Day Vigil

A Note about Ghosts

Grieving

Memorial Services

The Illness and Transition of Cathy Lewis
     Told by Her Intimates and Friends

The Greatest Gift of My Life: The Leela of Hien Lam's Passing
     by Carmen Morrow

"Feel Me Infinitely Above and Shoot Straight to Me Like an Arrow"

A Leela of Lance Barham 's Blessed Death in the Deathless Company of the Incarnate Divine Person, AvatarAdi Da Samraj by Deborah Fremont-Smith

How to Serve a Child Who Is Dying

How to Serve Children Who Are Grieving

A Leela of a Child's Death
     Told by Shawn Lipscomb

Recommended Readings from Avatar Adi Da's Wisdom-Teaching

Readings for Children

Attached Readings from Avatar Adi Da's Wisdom-Teaching

Da Love-Ananda Gita, verses 49 and 50
Prologue from The Knee Of Listening
"The Secret, or Law, of the Death Process"
"The Vision of Eternal Life"
"Only Life Overcomes Death"
"Original Light"
Epilogue from Ishta

Directions for Completing Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care

Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care

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